Explore the striking parallels between "queen balling" in honeybee hives and the societal pressures women face today. This blog sheds light on the challenges and struggles women undergo in meeting societal expectations and discusses how society can support them better.
Our new favorite thing is the Happier podcast with Gretchen Rubin (but more widely, podcasts in general) and here’s why:
They are mindful
It’s kind of a unique experience, to be focused on the incoming information in a mindless manner. The information is literally being poured into your brain without even trying, but that’s okay because it’s informational…which brings us to the next reason that podcasts are so awesome.
As you look around and see that your friendships are dwindling, you may not be motivated to do anything about it. But what if I told you that friendships that don’t help you grow are not friendships at all. As you start your new career, maybe get married (or stay single while everyone else you know gets married), have a family, it can become very easy to slip away from friendships. In order to evaluate your current friendships, ask yourself these questions:
Usually when I tell clients to become intentional, they kind of nod and smile but they rarely know what exactly I mean. An intention is a thought put in play towards an intended thing or plan. We are constantly told to set goals, meet deadlines, get to the bottom line. But rarely do we set out intention, which is an extremely present feeling; that in making, you cannot fail. It eliminates a required result but instead connects us to our path to get where we want to go.
In a culture that encourages us to say, “I want” rather than, “I have” it can be stifling to gratitude. Have you ever had a bad day and stopped to be grateful that you have legs? Or hair? Or the gift of sight, smell, taste? More than likely, you have somehow managed to forget. Or maybe your world has gotten so gray that you feeling something (gratitude) feels like nothing. Either way, more than likely, your last instinct is to counter discouragement with gratitude.
Grief is not a 12 step program. It cannot be contained by your timeline for healing. It does not concern itself with your convenience. We know that grief does have stages but those stages rarely follow an order. Sometimes, in order to define the abstract, you must determine what it’s not.
We love a good story. A feel-good story, a come-back story, a love story. Many are revered for their triumph over struggle. People have a funny fascination with pain and struggle. We like to see self-made people; people who beat the odds, walked through the fire, unscathed.
It is those people who get our attention and our respect. They make the best teachers, preachers, and story-tellers. We revere them because they are uncommon, unique, and unconventional.
Self-worth is a concept that many are able to define but unable to obtain. It consists of a lot of wondering, a lot or searching, and a lot of waiting. It’s wondering, “Am I’m fine just the way that I am?” It’s searching for worth and value—maybe first in others, then within yourself. And it’s waiting to see if one day it will find you….or will it?
